Few people wake up with a goal of creating dysfunctional relationships with their friends, relatives, coworkers, or kids. Many of us...

Recognizing the importance of place. The first thing we ask someone when we meet them, after their name, is where they are from, or the...

Relationship guru John Gottman refers to bids as “the fundamental unit of emotional communication.” Bids can be small or big, verbal or...

Flipping the script or "reframing" an argument with your someone takes some practice. Take a breath, or 5. Slow down your reaction. If...

Is the way you spend your time each day a reflection of how you answered that question? “Play, in almost any form, has myriad benefits...

Sometimes we don’t see when we are overwhelmed, or we see it, but we don’t stop to take a moment to rest and regroup. It is so important...

Psychologist, William James, said: “If you want a quality [including equality in marriage], act as if you already had it.” Men and women...

Mindful Listening This exercise is designed to open your ears to sound in a non-judgmental way, and indeed to train your mind to be less...

Moodiness is natural. We all have times where we get irritated, angry, or cranky with the world for no apparent good reason. Sometimes...

Asking curious questions is essential to getting in touch with our thoughts, feelings and needs, fostering empathy and more effective...

Excerpt by Russ Harris. "Remember those old movies where the bad guy falls into a pool of quicksand, and the more he struggles, the...

Today I woke up to a puking dog, a demanding toddler, a table overflowing with laundry and a checked out co-parent. So I "sucked it up",...

I am so encouraged that just across the Bay Bridge is a champion, bravely saying what therapists have said for decades. Our childhood...

Will Smith's advice on marital "happiness". It is rare that a celebrity's public words are something to be lauded, but Mr. Smith makes...

I started reading and collecting Brian Andreas' work almost twenty years ago. I am slow to wake up in the morning, and sometimes...

I see you, behind your veil of sadness behind your hair behind that wall erected all those years ago to protect the world from your...