"“The deepest desire of the human heart is to belong … to be welcomed … to know you are seen and worthy of kindness.” -Rachel Macy Stafford
Are you overwhelmed with being a parent or partner, or stressed out by a family member or friend?
Have you struggled with the decision to become a parent, faced infertility or pregnancy loss, or encountered intense emotions during pregnancy or after the birth of a child?
Is your heart heavy with sadness or fear?
Are you worried whether you are enough?
Are you lacking purpose, drive or direction?
Do you feel exhausted, alone, worried?
Are you having a hard time connecting with the life you want?
Does it seem like nobody gets it?
Do you wish you felt closer to your loved ones and enjoyed your relationships?
Sometimes, we get stuck in a "problem loop". Understanding how thoughts, feelings and actions interact, you can change negative beliefs that are stressing you out and make lasting changes that improve your life. While I don't ignore the past, much of our conversation focuses on the present and the future. This reflects a basic belief that problems are best solved by focusing on how you would like your life to be, and moving toward that, rather than focusing too much on what might have been had you been able to rewrite the past. Read more here about the effectiveness of this approach and check out the graphic below for an example.
BENEFITS OF PSYCHOTHERAPY
Identify your problems so that we can find solutions
Identify what is working so that we can repeat successes
Define your goals so that you can get clear about what you want
Specify a plan of action so that you know what to do next
Work on negative beliefs and bad habits so that you can open up to a life that works
Evaluate your progress so that you can celebrate it
Change is possible, and here are the necessary ingredients:
Insight: Awareness of what needs changed. This both comes before the other steps or during (or both), as new information can prompt something you need to deal with.
Info: Learning something new, getting a fresh perspective or new information. You can check out your motivation to change by how hard you and others work on obtaining new information.
Effort: While setbacks are expected, lasting change requires hard work, repetition and persistence.
Time: Practicing new behaviors over time is the only way they will become a new habit or norm. New patterns require at least 90 days to set in.