As we find ways to understand ourselves (and others), we find new pathways to better communication and means to live in a way that is better aligned with our values. This is one interesting way to think about it- tendencies. Gretchen Rubin wrote a book entitled The Four Tendencies.
According to Forbes, "Rubin is one of the most thought-provoking and influential writers on the linked subjects of habits, happiness, and human nature. She's the author of many books, including the blockbuster New York Times bestsellers, Better Than Before and The Happiness Project. A member of Oprah's SuperSoul 100, Rubin has an enormous following, in print and online; her books have sold more than two million copies worldwide, in more than thirty-five languages, and on her popular daily blog, gretchenrubin.com, she reports on her adventures in pursuit of habits and happiness. She also has a highly ranked, award-winning podcast, Happier with Gretchen Rubin."
You don't need to read the book before you get a sneak peek. https://youtu.be/QmpWW-KibOo And here's more on the topic:
and https://gretchenrubin.com/podcast-episode/bonus-episode-four-tendencies-deep-dive The second part of this podcast is more powerful because it hones in on the O type as experienced through the Tiffany Dufu, author of Drop the Ball. Gretchen Rubin has a quiz you can take on her website. How might this information better inform the way you communicate with your partner, your children, your family or friends, your boss, or your teacher?